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You thought today would never come, but it’s here, and you’re ready. Better weather, you couldn’t have asked for. Friends and family are here showing their love and support for the two of you.
And now the happy couple is getting ready to leave the church to embark on a new adventure together.
Confident and a bit nervous, they are ready and willing to tackle whatever life throws at them. And all it will offer in return, knowing in their hearts that it will always be this way. That every hurdle they face will be fought together, even in their golden years. God will lead them, and they will follow and serve Him. Life is good. And so begins “the dance.”

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Let me just take a moment to explain “the dance.”

With marriage, you encounter endless emotions along with the good, the bad, and the ugly. By ugly I am speaking of those unwanted, disastrous moments fraught with emotion. Or it could be times when just one of you is holding on to an irreconcilable past, not being able to let go of it, or the deep-rooted pain that slowly unfolds to reveal layers buried deeply within. Or even something worse. But when you work together, letting each other know all of the bad stuff, you are able to walk through all the turmoil, facing it head-on. Then together you conquer the ugly. You are victorious. The dance I’m speaking of here is for after getting through the tough times, and for those moments that could easily lead in another direction, one of separation or divorce. But you both got past it and moved on. This is the important factor. You didn’t take the other road. When you diffuse the bomb, and when you don’t give up on each other, you conquer the bad and the ugly. Then, you celebrate by metaphorically walking together to the middle of the floor. You see the light in each other’s eyes, remembering why you are together. You share a loving embrace, and you dance.

 

 

Your struggles will differ from those of your friends. Although you might share some of the same issues,
no couple’s problems are exactly the same. The dance is a release, a way to let go of all the stress from the bad, and the ugly. After all the mess is dealt with, “the dance” could be a euphoric feeling of letting go that leads to an evening of togetherness, holding hands while taking a walk, or to a night of love-making. The possibilities are endless, and it’s totally up to you. This is “your dance.”

 

 

 

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As you count your blessings through children, family, friends, good health, and Kodak moments, suddenly, and for some strange reason, the gears shift. You both are left wondering what happened. How did our life change so drastically? And you hold each other close, even as the dance steps are a little shaky now, and  you’re afraid. You both plan a hasty retreat. Then you stop, and hopefully you pray. You find your way in the dark, taking a few steps back to the floor where your steps are slowly in sync. And you conquer your fear—and you dance.

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A few more years down the road…
Again, the tempo changes.

The steps are even slower than before since you may have experienced the loss of a loved one, or something has happened to really shake your foundation. You feel like your bond together is tested. The cord holding the two of you together is twisted, yet strengthened. Twisted, because the two of you are united as one.  Like strands of rope that is strong and lasting. It is strengthened in love and your commitment to each other. And in time, you laugh as you regain your steps leading you, once again, to the place you began. To the dance.

 

Time stands still…
You have weathered the storms of tragedy and devastation. And along with celebrating life’s little nuances and blessings that fill you with joy—life deals you another blow. This blow doesn’t hit all at once. It creeps slowly, leaving you puzzled about your partner in the dance. A state of confusion overtakes this partner, robbing them of their memories as well as any future time together with you. As soon as you can, you persuade your partner to re-enter the dance floor, and try to recapture the moments together, and the light in your love’s eyes and smile. That smile that only shined for you…is now gone! the vacancy you find in those eyes  seems only to take your breath…
and thus your soul.

And now you know and are certain that this disease, this plague they call Alzheimer’s has claimed and destroyed yet another life…your life together. As your partner inches away slowly, leaving the dance floor, and leaving you —alone. You yourself are lost. You are left standing there and staring at this person who shared their life with you. And you cringe when you see this lost soul staring back, not having a clue as to who you are now. This same dance partner you gave your heart to so long ago, will lose their way, their life, and their love. They will lose you. This is a heart-rending disease. One that is harder on the ones that have their memories fully intact. The diseased victim doesn’t know you anymore, so they don’t remember ever having a relationship with you of any kind, let alone remember they love you. So the partner left behind will never enter the dance floor again. For you,t he dance is over.

This is so hard, but it does happen , and it leaves you empty inside. I don’t want to end my post like this, so get ready for a happier ending. Okay, are you ready?

 

In your declining years…
Though the dance rarely finishes while both partners reach the end of their lives and their dance together, it does happen. There is nothing sweeter than a final embrace, having their final dance in sync, and flashing their last smile at one another as they prepare to leave this world together, a couple who have weathered the storm, raised their children, suffered loss, and served their God, with joy. This long-lasting relationship they share is now at a close. Before leaving the dance floor, they share a look that says much about their entire married life. Holding hands, they quietly slip away taking their last breaths, remembering “the dance.

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Improve Your Mood

Spring is finally here! It seems to have started late this year, but it finally feels like spring. There is a spring in my step,  and I’m ready to get back to working out and getting my body back in shape and take off this winter coat of excess fat. With the introduction of spring comes a brand new longing to undo the bad I did to it over the winter months. Get back to the mantra “my body is a temple”. We all know that, right? We have to be careful what we put into our temples so we won’t end up in the hospital having surgical proceedures that could have been prevented by putting the right stuff into our bodies. Yeah, I know we can eat anything in moderation, but come on–do we really know when to call it quits on the good stuff (?) Honestly? Okay. That said, we need to start moving again.  We become too sedentary in the winter. Too often we don’t want to go to the gym, or take a walk, or take part in outdoor activities.

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We could try getting a pedometer and counting our steps each day. Did you know theywhoever they arewant us to get in 10,000 steps a day?

 

 

One sure way to start being more active is to incorporate little changes into our daily lives. Something like this:

Are you watching tv right now? No-no, that’s fine. Just don’t channel surf now, okay? Good. Now, the comfy couch or chair you’re sitting on–I want you to get off of it and stand up. That’s right, I won’t keep you long. Okay now, on the very next commercial I want you to move around. Walk in place, do jumping jacks, leg raises, squats, lunges, just anything that will keep you moving throughout that entire commercial. You know what movements you can do, and what you can’t. So be your own judge. This is a baby step in making small changes for the better in your everyday lives. Work up to doing this through several commercials. Just think of all the calories you will burn and the strength and endurance you will build if you keep this up during all the commercials of the tv programs or movies you watch. This may lead you to do other activities you may have always wanted to try. Walking for your health is one of the safest activities you can engage in. After a while you could add jogging or running, if you like.

 

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Now, about the title of this post. The treat is my motivation to do the activities I’ve set for myself to do during the week. If I don’t complete my workout I don’t get my treat. This can be any small thing I enjoy within reason. I like to watch a movie of my choice, or enjoy something like sherbet on a hot day. This is only paid after I’ve completed my workout for the week, which for me is Sunday.  My brain says: “if you have not completed your full workout for the week-no treat for you!”  ((EEEEEKKK!!!!))    It goes something like this:

 

See how stern my brain is? Yeah, I don’t want to disappoint my brain often. I shudder when I see this vision in my head. Ugh!

Only I don’t consider soup a treat. I love soup and can enjoy it any time. I’m not gonna work out for it, though. My brain is a mean bugger when it comes to my workouts. Hmm?  Oh, what do I do to work out? Well, I walk/run 3 days a week, and do a floor workout 3 days a week. It’s not all that much. The walk/run is only 30 minutes a day, and the floor exercises are 30-45 minutes. Which means I can quit at 30 minutes every time. It’s my choice. I like that.  I also like the fact that if I do my floor workouts and my walk/runs on the same days…

I get 4 days off! 

The fact is I have leeway. Who is Lee, and which way is he going? I have no clue. But I digress.

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 What’s that? Why only a 30 minute walk/run? Um, because that’s the time arrangement I can stay committed to without quitting altogether. Huh? Why would I quit? Well, because I know me. I know how I operate. You see, I can be bumping along going my 30 minutes a couple weeks, then decide to go a little longer, say by 15 minutes. Well then my brain gets tough and tells me since I did the longer interval once, I can do it again. This puts pressure on me, so what do I do? I rebel. I say I don’t like the new time limit…so I quit. Not the new time limit. I quit the walk/run.             I know, I know. It shouldn’t be a big deal–but it is.

Much like Jerry Seinfeld,

“I Choose Not To Run!” 

But also like him,  in the end I run anyway.

So after a week of doing nothing but floor excercises AND missing out on my treat for that week–(bummer!) I resume the 30 minute time limit once again, and all is well.

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So let’s do this thing together.

**Just think of the self-satisfaction we will experience. And all because we made our minds up to make small changes to our day.**

We need to make good health a priority.

 

I get good results from my workout. How about you? Do you have a plan to get more fit? Just customize your own. Make one that works for you, and that you know you can pretty much stick to. We all have our days when we just want to blow it off…

 

but if we do…

 

NO TREAT FOR YOU!!

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